I watched it on tv when I was 13 and next night was Mike Leigh's movie naked. So baptism of black pills in the 90s. Yeh hope the inspirational story refractive into art.
I’ve been rereading Anais Nin’s diaries the last couple of months. I can never seem to get enough of her. Next up, I’ll read A Literate Passion. She and Miller are my second favorite couple…taking first place- Simone de Beauvoir & Jean-Paul Sartre 🥰
I am an actively practicing Dom and always wondered why does power/lessness and the sexual overlap.
Subs are actually easy to understand. Powerlessness, feeling like not making decisions, simply turns the thinking brain off and leads to a relaxed state. Relaxation leads to arousal, similar to massage as foreplay. Okay.
But it is hard for me to understand what exactly am I doing. Okay, one part of it is kind of turning people into objects, and one can draw parallels between that and "ordinary" sexual objectification. But for example why do I love making people feel embarrassed, ashamed?
Almost everybody in the kink scene says the whole thing is at some level therapeutic and depends on previous trauma. Every bad thing that can happen in life has a corresponding kink. Is the sadist then just a cowardly masochist? I distinctly remember traumas of intense shame, I do not eroticize it when it is happening to me, but I do eroticize it when it happens to others. Still the question remains - if it is therapeutic, why is it also erotic?
Final thoughts. Today, we consider vanilla and BDSM are two distinctly different categories. It has not always been so. The Way Of A Man With A Maid on WikiSource is just categorized "Victorian erotica". People used to think sex and kink are the same things. Maybe back when people were not good about consent, it had an irreducible power element?
I can 100% say that, as a bratty sub, the turning off of the brain is the biggest turn on for me. I spend all day making decisions, overthinking, and focused on everyone else… when my partner takes over, I finally feel able to breathe and give in. I particularly love when my sight is taken away. That’s when my thoughts are the most silent as I’m solely focused on my 5 senses.
I was all in with The Story Of O for the first 2/3’s and then felt like it veered off a bit after the genital piercing… her internal dialogue shifted and I thought her personality changed more than the circumstances may have created. I still love the pushing of boundaries and being risqué and ahead of its time.
Interesesting to find someone here who knows the story of the eye.
When it come to Henry Miller "Nexus" and "Sexus" are for me the more interesting and more erotic novels. Today it feels like "Tropic Of Cancer" was just his start to find his voice as an author.
That’s the first thing I read by him & it got me into the rabbit hole. I think I enjoyed Justine more but also really liked 120 Days - it was class conscious & satirical. Also the context of him writing these works imprisoned, etc adds to the reading for me.
As philosophical works I really liked Justine and Philosophy in the Bedroom, I still need to tackle Juliette. I enjoyed 120 Days to a certain point, then it felt self-indulgent on his part (and I’m a veteran of extreme and disturbing media). Knowing he wrote it from prison, I can understand his impulse to break the boundaries of bad taste and portray the aristocracy and clergy as amoral deviant homosexuals, coprophiliacs, pedophiles, and secretly blasphemous.
The relationship between industrial dismemberment. Eros from trauma of 2 wars. Commodity culture removal of nature ergo authenticity.
A fine shelf of books for any obscene-to-be . I should reread Anaïs Nin. Politics is pornography.
Yeh even tropic of Capricorn by Miller reads like dirty and that's tame. Anais has some beautiful stuff
In my youth, I read Delta of Venus and Little Birds. I am now curious about Auletris.
Yeh Venus in furs and maldoror Isadore Ducasse rocked my understanding of the world.... Mostly because of movies like ghosts of the civil dead
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6DpQU5rXDU
depressingly honest portrayl of the cult
... I watched it tonight, a moving film, which will surely inspire me some stories.
I watched it on tv when I was 13 and next night was Mike Leigh's movie naked. So baptism of black pills in the 90s. Yeh hope the inspirational story refractive into art.
Pearsl before swine great movie that got lost in the digital realm
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnVjkMONPOE
I’ve been rereading Anais Nin’s diaries the last couple of months. I can never seem to get enough of her. Next up, I’ll read A Literate Passion. She and Miller are my second favorite couple…taking first place- Simone de Beauvoir & Jean-Paul Sartre 🥰
The book club seems such a good idea !
Thank you for this article, it was my morning read today.
Pornography, is only an Eagle Eye View of what goes on in The Worlds, of, contentment.
I am an actively practicing Dom and always wondered why does power/lessness and the sexual overlap.
Subs are actually easy to understand. Powerlessness, feeling like not making decisions, simply turns the thinking brain off and leads to a relaxed state. Relaxation leads to arousal, similar to massage as foreplay. Okay.
But it is hard for me to understand what exactly am I doing. Okay, one part of it is kind of turning people into objects, and one can draw parallels between that and "ordinary" sexual objectification. But for example why do I love making people feel embarrassed, ashamed?
Almost everybody in the kink scene says the whole thing is at some level therapeutic and depends on previous trauma. Every bad thing that can happen in life has a corresponding kink. Is the sadist then just a cowardly masochist? I distinctly remember traumas of intense shame, I do not eroticize it when it is happening to me, but I do eroticize it when it happens to others. Still the question remains - if it is therapeutic, why is it also erotic?
Final thoughts. Today, we consider vanilla and BDSM are two distinctly different categories. It has not always been so. The Way Of A Man With A Maid on WikiSource is just categorized "Victorian erotica". People used to think sex and kink are the same things. Maybe back when people were not good about consent, it had an irreducible power element?
I can 100% say that, as a bratty sub, the turning off of the brain is the biggest turn on for me. I spend all day making decisions, overthinking, and focused on everyone else… when my partner takes over, I finally feel able to breathe and give in. I particularly love when my sight is taken away. That’s when my thoughts are the most silent as I’m solely focused on my 5 senses.
I was all in with The Story Of O for the first 2/3’s and then felt like it veered off a bit after the genital piercing… her internal dialogue shifted and I thought her personality changed more than the circumstances may have created. I still love the pushing of boundaries and being risqué and ahead of its time.
Interesesting to find someone here who knows the story of the eye.
When it come to Henry Miller "Nexus" and "Sexus" are for me the more interesting and more erotic novels. Today it feels like "Tropic Of Cancer" was just his start to find his voice as an author.
What’s your opinion of 120 Days of Sodom? Do you think it has any merit in terms of de Sade’s philosophy or is it extreme depravity for its own sake?
That’s the first thing I read by him & it got me into the rabbit hole. I think I enjoyed Justine more but also really liked 120 Days - it was class conscious & satirical. Also the context of him writing these works imprisoned, etc adds to the reading for me.
As philosophical works I really liked Justine and Philosophy in the Bedroom, I still need to tackle Juliette. I enjoyed 120 Days to a certain point, then it felt self-indulgent on his part (and I’m a veteran of extreme and disturbing media). Knowing he wrote it from prison, I can understand his impulse to break the boundaries of bad taste and portray the aristocracy and clergy as amoral deviant homosexuals, coprophiliacs, pedophiles, and secretly blasphemous.